Marriage Success Through Attitude Change

It is common knowledge that people can change, either for better or for worse.

For couples who are courting, there is a tendency to be oblivious to each other's attitudes and characters at this stage in their relationship. However, after the wedding, spouses discover each other attitude which can be described as either admirable or obnoxious. The question, therefore, is, "As a spouse, would your partner have married you if he or she knew of the attitudes (which to him or her) you suddenly began to manifest?" If your candid answer is yes, then you are on the way to building a formidable marriage. If on the other hand, your genuine answer is no, then you should know that you are treading on the wrong path as well as working towards wrecking your marriage.

Arguments such as,

"If I had known that you were a drunk.....”

"If I had known that you were untidy and disorganized.....”

"If I had known that you were lazy and arrogant…"

indicate attitudes that in most cases either spouse never knew about during courtship but suddenly discover after the wedding.

Take note that your spouse expressing displeasure towards your obnoxious disposition, never intends to degrade you but rather assist you in becoming a better version of yourself; for who better can point out your inadequacies if not your partner?

Therefore, going by the knowledge that people can change, it now behoves the concerned partner (if keeping the marriage is a priority), to desist from such an obnoxious attitude.

In conclusion, an ideal couple will work as a team to build (take note) a not-so-perfect marriage (for really, no marriage is perfect), but one which they can be proud of and which others will desire to emulate.