What Does it Take to Foster Oneness (Unity) in Marriage?

It is common knowledge that there is enormous strength in the oneness of purpose. The scriptures confirm this in Gen.11.6: And the LORD said, Behold, the people is one, and they have all one language, and this they begin to do: and now nothing will be restrained from them, which they have imagined to do.
Successful marriages and families are formed on the principle of oneness in purpose and goals. For there to be oneness in marriage, couples must first be on the same page with respect to all affairs pertaining to their coexistence as well as the running of their home. There must be an absolutely clear understanding and acceptance of the intent of every action. There should be no room for activities that suggest liberty to undertake any task or make any decision without the awareness and approval of the other. So many marriages end in divorce because those involved come into the institution without the intention of compromising on the freedom they enjoyed while they were single. As a single, you made your own decisions on how you spent your money, how you dressed, what you ate, who you associated with, etc. But now that you are married, there will definitely be some limitations on some of those decisions.

At one time, everything was about you, myself. Now that you are married, it should be about us: our finances, our success, our goals, our plans, our future, etc.

Secondly (and most importantly), for there to be unity in marriage, couples must have total trust in one another. Just as it takes trust to be married to your spouse, it will require trust to remain in the marriage. So many couples who never had a problem trusting one another while courting, suddenly have issues with trust after the wedding. It, therefore, becomes imperative (if keeping the marriage is a priority) to spell out the root cause of the distrust and take unanimous steps to nip it in the bud.

It is common knowledge that great possibilities abound when marriages are built on unity of purpose. However, it is also a fact that for whatever area (finance, sex, career, spirituality, character, nurturing, etc.) spouses fail to be united, that will be the area they will experience setbacks and limitations. It may invariably deal a fatal blow to their union.

In conclusion, an ideal couple will work as a team to build (take note) a not-so-perfect marriage (for really, no marriage is perfect), but one which they can be proud of and which others will desire to emulate.